Tuesday, December 22, 2009

A Funny Thing About Friends...

I went to a Christmas party last night, hosted by a good friend and so many thoughts bounced around in my head while I was there! My friend is the most hospitable girl really, welcoming anyone and everyone into her life (as long as they are good, kind people of course) and treating them all like equals. The result of her giving heart is often a complete mix and match group of people whom you would never normally find yourself with.

She doesn't concern herself with the worrisome thoughts (that so many of us do) of weather certain people will get on with others, or weather guests 1, 2 & 3 have anything at all in common with guests 4, 5 & 6. Her natural way is to let people be people and figure it all out for themselves. The result is often a motley gathering of quite different folks.

It often causes me to wonder and reflect on why we choose to spend time with those we choose to spend time with. In my experience, friends are quite fleeting, for whatever reason. But the ones who stick around, who continue to cherish our relationship through all that life flings at us, have always been the ones who don't concern themselves with fine, sticky details, the people who don't concern themselves with worrying over what others will think all the time.

It begs to be noted that we all need to relax a little (or perhaps a lot) and try to welcome people, old and new, into our lives without being afraid. Sometimes a gem of a person can be hiding behind a rough exterior that you may not choose to look through at first. I can only imagine how wonderful this place could be, how settled our hearts and emotions could become, and the smiles that would surely spread over miles if we just shed the worries about what everyone else will think.

Leave it up to everyone else to decide what is best for them, and you just might be surprised. Give others their own courage back, and put back into their hands what you may have taken from them. Relax, be kind, and welcome everyone you care about into your life without restriction. We all need to stop picking and choosing based on the emotions and feelings of others. It's about you. If you want something, then go and get it. If you want to invite that odd-girl-out to your place, then do it. It doesn't matter what the others will think, let them take care of their own issues. Take a moment now to breathe, enjoy life, and move on.

1 comment:

Christine Rochet-Jacob. said...

Thank you for such a thought-provoking winter's tale, dear C.
I enjoyed it a lot!

Happy Sunday evening,
Christine